It’s important for your coworkers to like you because, well, first of all, you see them everyday and spend a minimum of seven hours a day with them. Also, businesses don’t operate from your input alone, it requires the entire staff and every employee to come together and work together as a team. There is innovation in brainstorming as a team and it helps to be on a neutral or good communicative level with your coworkers so that sessions like that aren’t awkward, but productive (as they should be).
Don’t go out of your way to create situations where you get to show off your reliability superpowers. Just be there when it counts and do everything you can to help the situation. Be the first to volunteer to take on the tasks that everyone turns their eyes downwards for (as if it makes them invisible). Take one for the team and prove you can be the one people call on and rely on to get the job done. Not only will your coworkers appreciate you for it, but your employer will most certainly value and notice it.
All too often employees act interested in what the other has to say. But there is so much value in actually being genuinely interested. It makes the coworker confiding in you feel better about themselves and it makes you a caring person. Be sure to listen to them and take interest, not just find what they’re saying interesting. Everyone likes a kind soul.
Make mental notes during conversations and be sure to follow up a few days later. It means a lot to people in general when you show you care. And in the office, it’s a great place to make friends and allies because it’s where you spend most of your time. There is definitely enough time in your contract to build credible relationships with these people.
Okay, so not everyone is a guru when it comes to remembering names, but you’ve got to try. If your company has a meet the team webpage, study it. Put the names you hear thrown around the office to the faces on the website and you’ll avoid super awkward moments when you get sent to someone’s office but have to ask who that person is.
Not only is it embarrassing for you, but it’s kind of offensive to your coworkers. If you’ve been there for over a month, you should really have a good idea of who’s who in the corporate zoo. And when in doubt, just smile as if you’re totally aware of who’s talking to you at the moment.
Now, once you’ve learned everyone’s names, you can’t go around and gossip about them. Even if other coworkers do it, don’t get involved. You could get into some real trouble and get in the really bad books of other employees. All your reliability and trust built in the beginning will be thrown out the window and you’ll have to establish yourself in the office.
It’s not worth getting in with a handful of coworkers and being disliked by the rest of the office. Also, this isn’t high school. You’re an adult and spreading malicious gossip, as easy as it is, is disrespectful, hurtful and childish.
When it comes to the working part of work, your coworkers want to know that you are, indeed, capable of performing and being professional. Even if you build a slightly more personal relationship with a colleague, when it comes down to business you need to display the professionalism and skills that got you hired. There’s a time and place for everything and you need to find when certain things are appropriate or not.
When it comes to social work events or staff training courses that have been specifically arranged for your team or the entire company, you should participate if you want people to like you. Your coworkers will remember if you aren’t there and you’ll be missing out on the next day’s lunch conversations.
These events are there to encourage teamwork, create a business culture and make everyone comfortable with everyone else. Which is important for the business aspects at work. It will make working as a department on a project a lot easier.
Another way to get your coworkers to like you is to, along with their names, remember their coffee orders. There’s nothing like having an angel of a colleague offer to make you coffee first thing in the morning or, even better, make you coffee without you even having to ask.
And something else that’s always a hit is bringing treats with you to work. Call it innocent bribery if you will. Regardless, food brings people together and that’s what you’re after, is it not?