There are few days more memorable than your wedding day. It’s the day where you commit to spend the rest of your life with the person you love. It’s the day when your closest friends and relatives come together to celebrate the relationship between you and your partner. It’s an important day. And that, of course, is why you want it to be absolutely perfect.
You’ve probably been dreaming about this day for quite a while and, now that you’re engaged to be married, it’s time to turn your dreams into reality. But it’s not going to be easy. There’s a reason why planning a wedding has a reputation for being an incredibly stressful time for couples. There’s a lot of pressure when organising an event like this. Which is why you should take all the advice you can get, including the following.
Be particular about the guestlist
You don’t owe anyone an invitation to your special day. You may think you do, but you don’t. Your mother’s second cousin doesn’t need to be there when you say your vows, especially if you haven’t seen her since you were three. It will always feel like you’re obligated to invite certain people but that’s not true. Sure, some people may be expecting an invitation in the mail, but this is your special day and what they’re expecting shouldn’t matter to you. The most important thing is that you have the people you care about there to witness your marriage. If there’s limited space, only choose the people you know you’ll still be in contact with in five year’s time.
Think carefully about the venue
You want a venue that’s both beautiful and practical. Unfortunately, not many people think about the latter when choosing where to have their wedding. You need to remember that people need to get there on the day (on time) and leave afterwards. If you really want to be married far away from the city lights, make sure there’s accommodation nearby so that people have the option of staying over in case they don’t want to drive a long distance at night.
You should also make sure the venue can hold as many people as you want to invite. Some places may say they can hold a maximum of 200 people, but you might find that those 200 people are all stuffed into one small area. Rather have fewer people in a large space than too many people in a crowded hall.
Ask for what you want
Don’t be that couple who pretend they don’t know they’re getting wedding presents. You will receive gifts, even if you specifically state you don’t want them. That’s just how it works. So, make it easy on yourselves and your guests, and let them know what you want. Creating a registry is always a great idea as you won’t get two of the same thing and have to consult the Consumer Protection Act regulations and store policies in order to return gifts you don’t want. Your guests will thank you because it means they don’t have to stress about buying you the right present and making sure it’s something no one else would get you. Just ensure that there are both cheap and expensive options on your registry as everyone has a different budget.
You could, of course, simply ask for money. It’s completely acceptable. People understand that you’re starting a new life with your partner and will have expenses. They’ll also understand that you both have specific likes and dislikes and have to decide together what goes in your home. And if you’re against receiving gifts or don’t need anything at all, request that anyone who wants to can donate to a charity of your choice. People will want to give you something, even if you specifically say you don’t want them to.
Some people prefer DJs and others prefer live bands, it all depends on what you want. But there has to be entertainment. To you, it may feel like the only important part is saying your vows and the rest will fall into place, but that’s often not the case. If you’re having the ceremony in the early afternoon and the food is only being served in the evening, you’ll need to keep your guests entertained during that time. It can be as simple as ensuring that the band starts as early as possible or creating a space where it’s easy for the guests to mingle. You don’t want to have to worry about people being bored on the day.
Lastly, don’t forget that it’s your special day
This day is about you and your partner. Your wedding will be perfect as long as the two of you are happy. So do something that suits you. Choose the decor you like, the venue you like, the music you like and the food you like. Other people will enjoy it if you enjoy it.