People often used to think that raising a well-behaved and well-mannered child was the best thing a parent could do. However, these days raising a well-adjusted and happy child is being seen as far more important. And, as most people know, having confidence and a high self-esteem is a large part of being a well-rounded human being.Investing in a child’s self-esteem should be high on every parent’s list of priorities. A child that believes in his or her capabilities is more likely to work harder at everything they do. They’re also less likely to enter into abusive relationships or undervalue themselves in the working world.
Raising your child with high self-esteem isn’t about telling them how great they are every minute of every day. It’s got a lot more to do with how you approach situations and how you speak to them about certain things.
Support their ambitions
Whether your child wants to play first team rugby or is an aspiring Youtube sensation, support their ambitions. No matter how silly you think their passion is, you should take an interest in it. It makes them happy and that should be the main goal, especially when they’re young. It’s important for children to have dreams, even if it is “just a phase”. Don’t ever tell them that what they love is “stupid” or ridiculous, it’ll discourage them from pursuing other interests in the future.
Motivate rather than criticise
If your child is doing poorly in school or is failing at a certain subject, don’t yell or punish them. Rather find a productive way of encouraging them. Find out why they’re not doing well and address the cause of the problem. Are they struggling because they aren’t keeping up? Or are they simply not interested in what they’re being taught? There are many ways to make school subjects more interesting for children, including online games and quizzes. And if they’re struggling to keep up, it’s a good idea to spend some extra time helping them or invest in a tutor. Never tell your child that he or she is stupid or less intelligent than the other children. Try to motivate them by telling them that they are capable and getting them to prove it to themselves.
Don’t turn their insecurities into jokes
If your child is insecure about their weight or is being teased about any of their physical features, do not turn this into a joke at home. Many parents and siblings think that they can make the situation better by using humour. While it may seem like teaching children to laugh at themselves is a good idea, it can be harmful when you’re telling them to laugh at their own appearance. Sure, get your kid to giggle when they fall rather than cry and encourage them to find embarrassing moments funny rather than traumatising. But teach your child to reject the teasing and bullying at school rather than to laugh along with the others. Tell them that it’s not alright when the other kids call them names. Tell them that the other kids are wrong. Teach them to love themselves and not mock themselves.
At the end of the day, a child with high self-esteem is more likely to grow up to succeed in life. They’ll feel appreciated and confident in what they do. A person who has been raised with low self-esteem could end up finding themselves involved activities that result in them needing legal assistance (although this is certainly not always the case). Having high self-esteem can go a long way to helping your child be the best person they can be as they grow up.